"Comparison is the thief of joy."
Some days just aren't happy. It's one of those weekends for me. It stems from the quote above.
Let's be honest here, every woman struggles with this in her personal and/or career life at some point or another. And when you deal with something as life-changing as infertility it can be really easy to get discouraged when you're surrounded by women who easily obtain what you try so hard to achieve but simply can't because of the limitations of your body (ie pregnancy/babies.)
But here's what I want to say- You don't have to be happy all the time.
It's okay to admit that you're not happy.
It's okay to say that life is putting you in tough spot right now that you're struggling.
It's okay to be honest about this stuff.
It's okay to be real.
In order to heal and to move past the cycle of damaging thoughts and feelings, we have to face them. We have to admit them. We have to be real about it and be honest with our loved ones about what we're going through. It's only with a lot of love and support (from ourselves and our closest, trusted people) that we start to heal.
So be real today. Tell your mom you're struggling with feelings of self doubt. Tell your partner that you're really sad today and need a hug. Tell your best friend that you're going through a tough time and could use a girl's day out. Most of all, tell yourself that it's okay to be sad sometimes. It's okay to be angry sometimes. It's okay to struggle sometimes. You're human. A lovely, wonderful, amazing human who has real emotions and real experiences. Don't try to write them out of your story.
Your feelings and experiences are valid. They are important. And most of all, you don't owe it to anyone to pretend to be alright. The only way to get better is by being honest about the work that needs to be done to feel better. <3